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I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships

Guy Baldwin

Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey


My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!

Master M

I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!


I can now celebrate my own uniqueness

chastityskin /slave ric

He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness

Sir Benjamen

“I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships”.

– Guy Baldwin,  psychotherapist, author, activist, and educator

“Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey”


When I started my journey as a submissive, I dove deep – hitting the bars, surfing the net, you name it. But stumbling upon and slave phil’s insights was a game-changer. His straightforward approach and the depth of topics covered really struck a chord with me. Seeing him run a workshop at Virtual CLAW impressed me, and after a discovery call, I sealed the deal by taking him up on his coaching – his genuine, no-nonsense take on the M/s lifestyle was exactly what I needed.

The decision to sign up with Slave Phil wasn’t easy. But let me tell you, his coaching is the real deal. Slave Phil’s got this incredible ability to listen – I mean, really listen. He has this ability to hear the heart stuff that all too frequently is glossed over by our head: our fears, our shame, and our worries about what others might think. He can cut through the emotional clutter and point out matters that block transformation, bringing them to light and suggesting ways forward for personal growth.

His personal experience on both sides of the M/s dynamic adds an invaluable layer of authenticity and insight.

The most tangible result from his coaching? It’s his skill in uncovering the underlying layers of our conversations. His knowledge of psychological archetypes, combined with his extensive experience, provides a unique perspective. This has led me to shed negative aspects and embrace a healthier, more authentic M/s lifestyle, and to find a Master whom I can have a relationship with.

What surprised me the most? It’s his ability to make the sessions feel so natural, even when discussing the most intimate and challenging topics. His humble yet knowledgeable approach creates a space of trust and openness.

So, to anyone considering Slave Phil’s coaching, I’d say go for it. His blend of professional experience, psychological insight, and heartfelt guidance is rare and incredibly valuable. Whether you’re looking to deepen your role as a Master or a slave, Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey.

My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!

Master M

I had had all sorts of kinks but experienced my first power dynamic relationship only recently and wanted to go further.

When reading Master/slave Lifestyle and seeing some of slave Phil’s videos on Instagram talking about blockers we can have, I found myself really relating to what he said. 

Through the coaching, Phil has helped to have:

  • A better understanding of my role as Master / Dom
  • A better filter troughs profiles and opportunities
  • Accept that nobody is perfect

The wish list document he helped me create is like a door to my mind, and going past the coaching session, I’ll keep it alive, using it as a journal for future experiences, thoughts and highlights.

Phil adapted my coaching sessions to my specific situation, his experiences and input were always on point.

And through the sessions, he then helped me realise my dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!

Try it out, even if it’s just a coaching session. You’ll see results.

Master M

I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!


I was also curious to go down the rabbit hole of personal coaching with Phil and see what it might turn up. I knew that I was conflicted about my sexuality and my upbringing, and at the age of 50, I felt that now was a good time to leave the past behind and step into a future that was integral to my individuality

Now, I can more easily prioritise my life based on personal integrity and beliefs about myself that I have formed through coaching with Phil. My self-esteem has increased as it is based on my own self-values, not the values placed upon me by society, family or friends.

And because of this, I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!

You can trust Phil. He is someone with a wealth of life experience who isn’t an angel or a devil but a bit of both and just needs you to show up as you are.

Phil provides a strong circle of trust that allows you to open up to him, confident that Phil will honour all of you, no matter what feelings that might come up.


I can now celebrate my own uniqueness

slave ric

As a slave who has come out of a 24/7 relationship and being naturally submissive, I have found that the coaching sessions with Phil have enabled me to celebrate my own uniquenesses, feel positive about myself and share these feelings openly with new friends.

This encouragement has allowed me to get back to being more of an extrovert person with friends and acquaintances I want to be around. I personally have begun to share with friends a few understandings that Phil has encouraged me to bring to the forefront of my life.

As a submissive, I was worried about whether the coaching sessions would be fruitful for me.

To my surprise, they have been bountiful.

I encourage anybody interested in discovering more about themselves to move past a difficult life or traumatic event to approach Phil for guidance.

Thank you Phil for your guidance and astute knowledge.


He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness”

Coaching with slave phil has vastly expanded my appreciation of not only the Master/slave dynamic but also myself. I have greater confidence and a better understanding of M/s dynamics. I use it to get fantastic reactions from my slave – from huge emotions to amazing scenes. I never believed the loving-kindness ritual Phil gave could have such a reaction with my slaves.

Coaching with slave phil has helped me increase my confidence and control of myself as a Dom and Master.

As well as providing knowledge on how I can Master slaves in the ways that suit me, the coaching with slave phil has expanded not only the breadth of my relationship with my slave but also the depth.

Phil helped me to safely access and unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness, along with a more profound and heart-based sense of responsibility for my slaves.

I would tell someone considering coaching that if they are serious about M/s relationships, the insight of slave phil has been of immense benefit.

Sir Benjamin

“I now know my future”

As a 24/7 slave, being able to talk and openly explore every aspect of my life, including BDSM, which is core to my identity and lived experience, was wonderfully liberating and sustaining. 

It’s given me confidence and permission to express that my needs are valid and need to be taken into consideration from those around me.

Your coaching allowed me to explore and identify my core needs and roles in my life – both slave and mainstream – and map out options and actions for the future.

Now I have a much better idea of who I am and how to express this to those around me!

slave b

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“I watched the slave’s face light up”

I feel I have gained so much from this course. The biggest result for me has been what I learned about myself and how I’ve grown from that knowledge. Especially the analogy of the lantern in the dark (damn, I love that).

The tools helped me to identify what I feel like I want and how to then examine these feelings. For example, I’m finding it easier to speak with my partner about what I want for the future and not feel ashamed or embarrassed.

This very morning, I was speaking to a potential slave and, using what I learned from the course, unlock an issue that was stopping us from progressing. I watched the slave’s face light up as I did it, and we are now chatting about the possibilities of him serving me.

It has been such a great investment!

Master Jim

I am now a better Master


I have thoroughly enjoyed listening to the Become a Master/slave course.

I have been part of the M/s lifestyle for over a decade. This course has reinforced much of who I am and what I do as a Master is working. It has helped me keep myself in check and not drift towards the “dark side.” But also that I guide any slave I am training or own to fulfil their slave soul so that they may live the life embedded deep inside of themselves.

One part of the course was entitled “Importance of Exploring.” This section was great. It reminded me that only through continued experiences and exploration will I be able to hone in on who I really am as a Master.

This course has reminded me that as long as I am on a positive path to make sure I continue to improve who I am, be willing to change, right the wrongs in my life, and above all – be in the moment and have fun and enjoy life, then I will walk my Master path with my head held high.

The course has helped me become a better Master. The course has allowed me to discover and understand who I am and how to let the growth and manifest inside myself.


“The Course provides lots of practical advice on becoming a Master/slave.”

Whether you are just exploring a Power Exchange relationship, or like me, an already a collared slave for 9 years, the Master/slave Course provides lots of practical advice on becoming a Master/slave.

The modules are easy to follow and can be taken at your own pace and schedule. At the same time, the exercises are really helpful regardless of experience level. I recommend the course for anyone interested in beginning or deepening a Master/slave relationship.

slave jimmy, Portland, Oregon

The course has taught me to stand back and reflect on what I actually want”

Sir Jim talking about his 3 year TPE Master/slave relationship

I appreciated the structure and starting with the basics. Much that I had incorrectly previously assumed about the M/s.

Although I only had small experience and am new to the M/s lifestyle concept – I am in the (fortunate) position of being approached by a Master for ownership.

I want to accept as I feel honoured, excited, and desire power exchange, but I am full of fear and trepidation. But the fear section of the course helped with my fear.

The course has taught me to stand back and reflect on what I actually want and to ask questions of the Master about how He defines ownership, etc so I can make decisions regarding ownership.

“It has helped me begin learning more about who I am and what I want and seek.”

— Course particpant

Another comment from the course

I love the small steps in dealing with fear and unpicking emotional and rational fears.

I also loved the reflection on dealing with a lifetime’s worth of shame & how to counteract this with love, compassion and empathy with myself.

And loved the emphasis on journaling to understand myself.

The course has taught me to stand back and reflect on what I actually want”

I have spent a fair portion of my life looking for a real 24/7, TPE, Master/slave relationship.

Being someone who grew up in kink during the 80’s and 90’s, and working in a local leather shop during part of that time, I knew these types of relationships existed, but finding one for myself was not an easy thing.

I was too wrapped up in my own head about all the “what-ifs”.

As I am at long last looking at the real possibility of such a relationship, I knew there was work I needed to do to organize and better myself before presenting my gift of service to my potential Master. But again, that work seemed daunting and I wasn’t sure where to start.

I stumbled across a Twitter post from @Brotherhood_SM and something clicked.

Several posts later I made the decision to subscribe and see what kind of information was available. That was the best decision I have made in the last ten years!

There is so much real world advice and information available. I knew I had found a resource that could help me get myself organized.

But more than that, I discovered things about myself that had been stumbling blocks on my path. Things that I have been working on to improve myself and make me more of a valuable asset to the life of my potential Master. And, I no longer felt like the odd man out in our world of instant gratification.

My potential Master has noticed a difference and is proud of the commitment I’ve made to be/do better, not just for Him, but for myself.

This wouldn’t have been possible without

Master/slave Lifestyle.

Master/slave Lifestyle is well worth the subscription, and I highly recommend it for both aspiring slaves looking to enter a 24/7 relationship, but also the Masters looking for the slave best suited to their desires. This definitely isn’t a hookup site, but it can help you become a better version of you capable of finding the compatible Master/slave you seek.

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