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WHat’s the REALITY?

A book that enables you to unleash yourself safely. A book that explains what power exchange actually is!

Become the Master or slave you’re meant to be and understand the truth of Master/slave and power exchange

I’m slave phil

I can help guide you to the Master/slave you truly deserve.

My journey as a slave has led to a global exploration of the Master/slave scene, serving Masters long-term from East Coast Australia to the West Coast of the USA and South Africa to Finland.

My journeys had incredible times but also dark times. But through these, I have learned what the Master/slave lifestyle is and how to live it.

And now I help others to avoid the mistakes I made, to help them find what they really need and their courage to find the Master/slave for them.


“I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships”.

– Gay Balwin,  psychotherapist, author, activist, and educator

My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!”

Master M

I had had all sorts of kinks but experienced my first power dynamic relationship only recently and wanted to go further.

When reading Master/slave Lifestyle and seeing some of slave Phil’s videos on Instagram talking about blockers we can have, I found myself really relating to what he said. 

Through the coaching, Phil has helped to have:

  • A better understanding of my role as Master / Dom
  • A better filter troughs profiles and opportunities
  • Accept that nobody is perfect

The wish list document he helped me create is like a door to my mind, and going past the coaching session, I’ll keep it alive, using it as a journal for future experiences, thoughts and highlights.

Phil adapted my coaching sessions to my specific situation, his experiences and input were always on point.

And through the sessions, he then helped me realise my dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!

Try it out, even if it’s just a coaching session. You’ll see results.

Master M

I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!”


I was also curious to go down the rabbit hole of personal coaching with Phil and see what it might turn up. I knew that I was conflicted about my sexuality and my upbringing, and at the age of 50, I felt that now was a good time to leave the past behind and step into a future that was integral to my individuality

Now, I can more easily prioritise my life based on personal integrity and beliefs about myself that I have formed through coaching with Phil. My self-esteem has increased as it is based on my own self-values, not the values placed upon me by society, family or friends.

And because of this, I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!

You can trust Phil. He is someone with a wealth of life experience who isn’t an angel or a devil but a bit of both and just needs you to show up as you are.

Phil provides a strong circle of trust that allows you to open up to him, confident that Phil will honour all of you, no matter what feelings that might come up.


I can now celebrate my own uniqueness”

slave ric

As a slave who has come out of a 24/7 relationship and being naturally submissive, I have found that the coaching sessions with Phil have enabled me to celebrate my own uniquenesses, feel positive about myself and share these feelings openly with new friends.

This encouragement has allowed me to get back to being more of an extrovert person with friends and acquaintances I want to be around. I personally have begun to share with friends a few understandings that Phil has encouraged me to bring to the forefront of my life.

As a submissive, I was worried about whether the coaching sessions would be fruitful for me.

To my surprise, they have been bountiful.

I encourage anybody interested in discovering more about themselves to move past a difficult life or traumatic event to approach Phil for guidance.

Thank you Phil for your guidance and astute knowledge.


He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness”

Coaching with slave phil has vastly expanded my appreciation of not only the Master/slave dynamic but also myself. I have greater confidence and a better understanding of M/s dynamics. I use it to get fantastic reactions from my slave – from huge emotions to amazing scenes. I never believed the loving-kindness ritual Phil gave could have such a reaction with my slaves.

Coaching with slave phil has helped me increase my confidence and control of myself as a Dom and Master.

As well as providing knowledge on how I can Master slaves in the ways that suit me, the coaching with slave phil has expanded not only the breadth of my relationship with my slave but also the depth.

Phil helped me to safely access and unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness, along with a more profound and heart-based sense of responsibility for my slaves.

I would tell someone considering coaching that if they are serious about M/s relationships, the insight of slave phil has been of immense benefit.

Sir Benjamin

“I watched the slave’s face light up”

I feel I have gained so much from this course. The biggest result for me has been what I learned about myself and how I’ve grown from that knowledge. Especially the analogy of the lantern in the dark (damn, I love that).

The tools helped me to identify what I feel like I want and how to then examine these feelings. For example, I’m finding it easier to speak with my partner about what I want for the future and not feel ashamed or embarrassed.

This very morning, I was speaking to a potential slave and, using what I learned from the course, unlock an issue that was stopping us from progressing. I watched the slave’s face light up as I did it, and we are now chatting about the possibilities of him serving me.

It has been such a great investment!

Master Jim

I am now a better Master”


I have thoroughly enjoyed listening to the Become a Master/slave course.

I have been part of the M/s lifestyle for over a decade. This course has reinforced much of who I am and what I do as a Master is working. It has helped me keep myself in check and not drift towards the “dark side.” But also that I guide any slave I am training or own to fulfil their slave soul so that they may live the life embedded deep inside of themselves.

One part of the course was entitled “Importance of Exploring.” This section was great. It reminded me that only through continued experiences and exploration will I be able to hone in on who I really am as a Master.

This course has reminded me that as long as I am on a positive path to make sure I continue to improve who I am, be willing to change, right the wrongs in my life, and above all – be in the moment and have fun and enjoy life, then I will walk my Master path with my head held high.

The course has helped me become a better Master. The course has allowed me to discover and understand who I am and how to let the growth and manifest inside myself.


“The Course provides lots of practical advice on becoming a Master/slave.”

Whether you are just exploring a Power Exchange relationship, or like me, an already a collared slave for 9 years, the Master/slave Course provides lots of practical advice on becoming a Master/slave.

The modules are easy to follow and can be taken at your own pace and schedule. At the same time, the exercises are really helpful regardless of experience level. I recommend the course for anyone interested in beginning or deepening a Master/slave relationship.

slave jimmy, Portland, Oregon

The course has taught me to stand back and reflect on what I actually want”

Sir Jim talking about his 3 year TPE Master/slave relationship

I appreciated the structure and starting with the basics. Much that I had incorrectly previously assumed about the M/s.

Although I only had small experience and am new to the M/s lifestyle concept – I am in the (fortunate) position of being approached by a Master for ownership.

I want to accept as I feel honoured, excited, and desire power exchange, but I am full of fear and trepidation. But the fear section of the course helped with my fear.

The course has taught me to stand back and reflect on what I actually want and to ask questions of the Master about how He defines ownership, etc so I can make decisions regarding ownership.

“I now know my future”

As a 24/7 slave, being able to talk and openly explore every aspect of my life, including BDSM, which is core to my identity and lived experience, was wonderfully liberating and sustaining. 

It’s given me confidence and permission to express that my needs are valid and need to be taken into consideration from those around me.

Your coaching allowed me to explore and identify my core needs and roles in my life – both slave and mainstream – and map out options and actions for the future.

Now I have a much better idea of who I am and how to express this to those around me!

slave b

“It has helped me begin learning more about who I am and what I want and seek.”

β€” Course particpant

Another comment from the course

I love the small steps in dealing with fear and unpicking emotional and rational fears.

I also loved the reflection on dealing with a lifetime’s worth of shame & how to counteract this with love, compassion and empathy with myself.

And loved the emphasis on journaling to understand myself.

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