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Coaching

Are you ready to transform, go deeper and truly begin?

I offer coaching to all those in the Master/slave lifestyle – for those just starting out, to serious players, to those already in a Master/slave relationship or family.

Just starting out…

I offer a range of coaching, helping people just starting out or wanting to take their first serious step into the Master/slave Lifestyle. I help with the following:

  • Transforming your shame into confidence
  • Letting go of fear
  • Understand what it is you really want
  • Find out what you need and how to find it efficiently
  • plus more…

With beginners, my primary form of coaching is around building the Master’s or slave’s identity, not just as a Master or slave but in all areas of their life, and unleashing their inner beast and desires safely and consensually.

The process

Based on my propriety AIB framework, I take you step by step to build your confidence so you can unleash yourself in all areas of your life.

1

Accelerate

Working from the inside out creates an accelerator for change and an internal revolution and revelation to understand who you are and what you want. You will feel an immediate increase in confidence as the internal revolution occurs.

2

Insecurities

As gay/queer men, we’ve gone through a lot. Bullying at school, and families that struggled to accept us or did not know what to do with us. So, it’s no wonder we have insecurities.

Then, when you add our fetishes and desires for submission and Mastery – we can have even more shame!

In this phase, we’ll give space to allow the insecurities to heal so you can move past them to the more confident you.

3

Belong

It’s time to belong truly. You know who you are. You know what you want.

It’s time to get out there and get it.

With your new confidence, you can now do this without issue.

And with that confidence and the coaching, you know how to unleash the beast and desires inside safely and make the fantasies come true!

I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!”


footsoldier

I was also curious to go down the rabbit hole of personal coaching with Phil and see what it might turn up. I knew that I was conflicted about my sexuality and my upbringing, and at the age of 50, I felt that now was a good time to leave the past behind and step into a future that was integral to my individuality

Now, I can more easily prioritise my life based on personal integrity and beliefs about myself that I have formed through coaching with Phil. My self-esteem has increased as it is based on my own self-values, not the values placed upon me by society, family or friends.

And because of this, I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!

You can trust Phil. He is someone with a wealth of life experience who isn’t an angel or a devil but a bit of both and just needs you to show up as you are.

Phil provides a strong circle of trust that allows you to open up to him, confident that Phil will honour all of you, no matter what feelings that might come up.

footsolider

So are you ready?

  • Are you ready to transform
  • Are you ready deeper than you ever thought was possible?
  • Do you want to start living the life that will give you joy?
  • Live your life in confidence?
  • Are you ready to begin?

If so, email me to book a free 20-minute call

In a Master/slave relationship or family

I help those in Master/slave relationships and Master/slave families/stables. My help in the past has included:

  • Fixing a stale relationship
  • How a new relationship can firm up the Master/slave dynamics
  • How to be a Master/slave when feeling exhausted from work
  • How to go deeper into the Master/slave relationship
  • Improve communication with partner(s)
  • Unsticking a stuck relationship

When it comes to Master/slave relationships, they are all very different. Some might have light control, while others use deep control and ritual. I adapt my coaching approach to the family/relationship in

How do I coach?

One person or many?

Depending on the Master’s and slaves’ preferences and how the family is run, I can coach in different ways. Sometimes, it is to coach a Master/slave couple together. For others, it might be just to the Master.

1

Where is the relationship now?

I use several models I have created to help people figure out where their relationship or family currently is and where they want to go. And then, through powerful questions, help people figure out what changes they want to make.

2

Focus on the Master

In other setups, I focus on the Master, who is in control and in charge of the family. I work with him to see how he wants to change and adapt to the family.

Occasionally, it might be the Master Himself that might be blocked, so we look at why and what tactics the Master wants to use to unblock himself. In doing so, this unblocks the slave or the rest of the family.

3

How to communicate

Master/slave relationships require good communication to be successful. Often, when there is an issue, it can be around communication.

This can manifest as a Master or slave embarrassed to share their needs. Or one of the parties stopping to fulfil the other’s needs due to a lack of communication.

I help identify the blocker and, using some of my models, help Masters and slaves find ways they can easily communicate again.


“I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships”.

– Gay Balwin,  psychotherapist, author, activist, and educator

Completely Confidential

Many previous clients I had were well-known on the scene and can be embarrassed with the thought of being found out if they sought coaching.

All my coaching is entirely confidential. And everything said, even the fact you are being coached, is kept private to just you and me.

Non-Judgemental

My coaching style is to be completely non-judgemental. Masters and slaves have relationships in many different ways, from being lovers to very depraved control. I hold an utterly no-judgemental attitude to the relationship. Instead, I focus on helping you!

Want to know more?

  • If you’re interested in how I can help move your relationship(s) forward
  • With a non-judgemental coach
  • That is completely confidential

Then email me to book a free 20-minute call

Serious player

  • Perhaps you are already a serious player
  • Maybe you have a potential slave, or you are already training one
  • Perhaps you are a slave moving deeper into the Master/slave Lifestyle
  • Or do you want some advice and a coach to bounce ideas off for how to train your slave better and go deeper?

We can have some ad-hoc coaching sessions to help with the above, plus more!

Some ways I’ve helped in the past are:

  • Explaining the best way to punish/correct a slave that brings out the best service
  • How to understand what you and the slave need
  • How to understand your beast inside

If you want a few ad-hoc sessions to help you, get in touch

Email me to book a free 20-minute call

Find out more

Find out more about the coaching and the different options available.

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Testimonials


“I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships”.

– Gay Balwin,  psychotherapist, author, activist, and educator

My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!”


Master M

I had had all sorts of kinks but experienced my first power dynamic relationship only recently and wanted to go further.

When reading Master/slave Lifestyle and seeing some of slave Phil’s videos on Instagram talking about blockers we can have, I found myself really relating to what he said. 

Through the coaching, Phil has helped to have:

  • A better understanding of my role as Master / Dom
  • A better filter troughs profiles and opportunities
  • Accept that nobody is perfect

The wish list document he helped me create is like a door to my mind, and going past the coaching session, I’ll keep it alive, using it as a journal for future experiences, thoughts and highlights.

Phil adapted my coaching sessions to my specific situation, his experiences and input were always on point.

And through the sessions, he then helped me realise my dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!

Try it out, even if it’s just a coaching session. You’ll see results.

Master M

I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!”


footsoldier

I was also curious to go down the rabbit hole of personal coaching with Phil and see what it might turn up. I knew that I was conflicted about my sexuality and my upbringing, and at the age of 50, I felt that now was a good time to leave the past behind and step into a future that was integral to my individuality

Now, I can more easily prioritise my life based on personal integrity and beliefs about myself that I have formed through coaching with Phil. My self-esteem has increased as it is based on my own self-values, not the values placed upon me by society, family or friends.

And because of this, I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!

You can trust Phil. He is someone with a wealth of life experience who isn’t an angel or a devil but a bit of both and just needs you to show up as you are.

Phil provides a strong circle of trust that allows you to open up to him, confident that Phil will honour all of you, no matter what feelings that might come up.

footsolider

I can now celebrate my own uniqueness”


slave ric

As a slave who has come out of a 24/7 relationship and being naturally submissive, I have found that the coaching sessions with Phil have enabled me to celebrate my own uniquenesses, feel positive about myself and share these feelings openly with new friends.

This encouragement has allowed me to get back to being more of an extrovert person with friends and acquaintances I want to be around. I personally have begun to share with friends a few understandings that Phil has encouraged me to bring to the forefront of my life.

As a submissive, I was worried about whether the coaching sessions would be fruitful for me.

To my surprise, they have been bountiful.

I encourage anybody interested in discovering more about themselves to move past a difficult life or traumatic event to approach Phil for guidance.

Thank you Phil for your guidance and astute knowledge.

chastityskin

He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness”


Coaching with slave phil has vastly expanded my appreciation of not only the Master/slave dynamic but also myself. I have greater confidence and a better understanding of M/s dynamics. I use it to get fantastic reactions from my slave – from huge emotions to amazing scenes. I never believed the loving-kindness ritual Phil gave could have such a reaction with my slaves.

Coaching with slave phil has helped me increase my confidence and control of myself as a Dom and Master.

As well as providing knowledge on how I can Master slaves in the ways that suit me, the coaching with slave phil has expanded not only the breadth of my relationship with my slave but also the depth.

Phil helped me to safely access and unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness, along with a more profound and heart-based sense of responsibility for my slaves.

I would tell someone considering coaching that if they are serious about M/s relationships, the insight of slave phil has been of immense benefit.

Sir Benjamin

“I now know my future”

As a 24/7 slave, being able to talk and openly explore every aspect of my life, including BDSM, which is core to my identity and lived experience, was wonderfully liberating and sustaining. 

It’s given me confidence and permission to express that my needs are valid and need to be taken into consideration from those around me.

Your coaching allowed me to explore and identify my core needs and roles in my life – both slave and mainstream – and map out options and actions for the future.

Now I have a much better idea of who I am and how to express this to those around me!

slave b

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