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Coaching

Are you ready to transform, go deeper and truly begin? Then let’s find your Kink identity.

I offer coaching to all those in the Master/slave lifestyle – for those just starting out, to serious players, to those already in a Master/slave relationship or family.

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My background as a coach

With over a decade of experience as an international executive coach, I’ve had the privilege of collaborating with some of the world’s most renowned organisations, including BBC, the largest broadcaster globally, and ITV, the leading commercial broadcaster in the UK.

During my time in Berlin, I successfully worked for a number of international startups, where I contributed to their incredible success stories, collectively generating over $100 million in revenue.

My role extended beyond coaching; I played a pivotal role in transforming their organisational cultures into high-performance cultures through strategic change initiatives and coaching 1:1 with critical people across the startups.

Additionally, I have taken on a meaningful role in my local community by coaching the founders of various impactful gay community projects here in Berlin.

My coaching journey has been all-encompassing, spanning every echelon of organisations – from visionary founders and C-level executives to directors and emerging leaders taking their first steps in their careers.

My academic background includes a Master’s degree in Computer Systems Engineering from the prestigious University of Warwick (part of the Russell Group, the English equivalent of an Ivy University).

I am globally recognised for my expertise in the Master/slave Lifestyle, having conducted workshops at prestigious venues worldwide, such as CLAW in the USA and gay-BDSM.club, Recon London Full Fetish, The Stretch Festival, and The Village in Berlin.

I’ve also written a book using archetypes to help people understand power exchange.

My insights and experiences have made me a sought-after voice in this field, leading to numerous interviews on various international podcasts. Additionally, my written contributions, exploring the depths and nuances of the Master/slave Lifestyle, have been featured in many fetish magazines around the globe.

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Testimonials

I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships


Guy Baldwin

Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey


Kuffboy

My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!


Master M

I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!


footsolider

I can now celebrate my own uniqueness


chastityskin /slave ric

He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness


Sir Benjamen


“I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships”.

– Guy Baldwin,  psychotherapist, author, activist, and educator

“Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey”


kuffboy

When I started my journey as a submissive, I dove deep – hitting the bars, surfing the net, you name it. But stumbling upon masterlsavelifestyle.com and slave phil’s insights was a game-changer. His straightforward approach and the depth of topics covered really struck a chord with me. Seeing him run a workshop at Virtual CLAW impressed me, and after a discovery call, I sealed the deal by taking him up on his coaching – his genuine, no-nonsense take on the M/s lifestyle was exactly what I needed.

The decision to sign up with Slave Phil wasn’t easy. But let me tell you, his coaching is the real deal. Slave Phil’s got this incredible ability to listen – I mean, really listen. He has this ability to hear the heart stuff that all too frequently is glossed over by our head: our fears, our shame, and our worries about what others might think. He can cut through the emotional clutter and point out matters that block transformation, bringing them to light and suggesting ways forward for personal growth.

His personal experience on both sides of the M/s dynamic adds an invaluable layer of authenticity and insight.

The most tangible result from his coaching? It’s his skill in uncovering the underlying layers of our conversations. His knowledge of psychological archetypes, combined with his extensive experience, provides a unique perspective. This has led me to shed negative aspects and embrace a healthier, more authentic M/s lifestyle, and to find a Master whom I can have a relationship with.

What surprised me the most? It’s his ability to make the sessions feel so natural, even when discussing the most intimate and challenging topics. His humble yet knowledgeable approach creates a space of trust and openness.

So, to anyone considering Slave Phil’s coaching, I’d say go for it. His blend of professional experience, psychological insight, and heartfelt guidance is rare and incredibly valuable. Whether you’re looking to deepen your role as a Master or a slave, Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey.

My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!


Master M

I had had all sorts of kinks but experienced my first power dynamic relationship only recently and wanted to go further.

When reading Master/slave Lifestyle and seeing some of slave Phil’s videos on Instagram talking about blockers we can have, I found myself really relating to what he said. 

Through the coaching, Phil has helped to have:

  • A better understanding of my role as Master / Dom
  • A better filter troughs profiles and opportunities
  • Accept that nobody is perfect

The wish list document he helped me create is like a door to my mind, and going past the coaching session, I’ll keep it alive, using it as a journal for future experiences, thoughts and highlights.

Phil adapted my coaching sessions to my specific situation, his experiences and input were always on point.

And through the sessions, he then helped me realise my dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!

Try it out, even if it’s just a coaching session. You’ll see results.

Master M

I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!


footsoldier

I was also curious to go down the rabbit hole of personal coaching with Phil and see what it might turn up. I knew that I was conflicted about my sexuality and my upbringing, and at the age of 50, I felt that now was a good time to leave the past behind and step into a future that was integral to my individuality

Now, I can more easily prioritise my life based on personal integrity and beliefs about myself that I have formed through coaching with Phil. My self-esteem has increased as it is based on my own self-values, not the values placed upon me by society, family or friends.

And because of this, I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!

You can trust Phil. He is someone with a wealth of life experience who isn’t an angel or a devil but a bit of both and just needs you to show up as you are.

Phil provides a strong circle of trust that allows you to open up to him, confident that Phil will honour all of you, no matter what feelings that might come up.

footsolider

I can now celebrate my own uniqueness


slave ric

As a slave who has come out of a 24/7 relationship and being naturally submissive, I have found that the coaching sessions with Phil have enabled me to celebrate my own uniquenesses, feel positive about myself and share these feelings openly with new friends.

This encouragement has allowed me to get back to being more of an extrovert person with friends and acquaintances I want to be around. I personally have begun to share with friends a few understandings that Phil has encouraged me to bring to the forefront of my life.

As a submissive, I was worried about whether the coaching sessions would be fruitful for me.

To my surprise, they have been bountiful.

I encourage anybody interested in discovering more about themselves to move past a difficult life or traumatic event to approach Phil for guidance.

Thank you Phil for your guidance and astute knowledge.

chastityskin

He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness”


Coaching with slave phil has vastly expanded my appreciation of not only the Master/slave dynamic but also myself. I have greater confidence and a better understanding of M/s dynamics. I use it to get fantastic reactions from my slave – from huge emotions to amazing scenes. I never believed the loving-kindness ritual Phil gave could have such a reaction with my slaves.

Coaching with slave phil has helped me increase my confidence and control of myself as a Dom and Master.

As well as providing knowledge on how I can Master slaves in the ways that suit me, the coaching with slave phil has expanded not only the breadth of my relationship with my slave but also the depth.

Phil helped me to safely access and unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness, along with a more profound and heart-based sense of responsibility for my slaves.

I would tell someone considering coaching that if they are serious about M/s relationships, the insight of slave phil has been of immense benefit.

Sir Benjamin

“I now know my future”

As a 24/7 slave, being able to talk and openly explore every aspect of my life, including BDSM, which is core to my identity and lived experience, was wonderfully liberating and sustaining. 

It’s given me confidence and permission to express that my needs are valid and need to be taken into consideration from those around me.

Your coaching allowed me to explore and identify my core needs and roles in my life – both slave and mainstream – and map out options and actions for the future.

Now I have a much better idea of who I am and how to express this to those around me!

slave b

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