Articles & Journeys (start here)

Just starting out in the Master/slave Lifestyle

You’re just starting out in the Master/slave Lifestyle. Has your brain been blown by the fact this really does exist? Many years ago, when I came across my first website, I could not get over the fact that people lived what I had been fantasising about since I was young.

If you’re here, I suggest starting with the articles around Fantasy to Reality and Do People Live This as a Reality. After this, I would look at the self-reflection articles to help you figure out what you really want, followed by my course or book that takes you step by step from having no idea what you want to having a clear idea and moving forward.

I would also suggest these articles:

• The Insider View Of Long-Term Permanent Bondage In TPE You Need To Know
• 7 Secrets Of Chastity You Wished You Had Always Known

Not sure what you want

There are several blockers to taking that first step in the Master/slave Lifestyle. Shame, fear, and doubt, to name a few. But one of the biggest can be having no idea what you want from this and how you can take the first step.

If so, start with the self-reflection articles to help you identify what you need. There is also a podcast episode about the different facets of kink identity to help you figure out where you might fit. I also have a fantastic course that leads you step by step in figuring out what you need and a book that helps you understand the truth of power exchange.

I would also suggest the following articles and interviews from the podcast:

• 📜 The BDSM Slave’s Intense Need To Fixate That Overcomes Everything
• 🎧 An interview with this inspiring slave. He talks about his history of coming from a conservative background and struggling with shame, fear and doubt of being a slave. And how he overcame this and became a slave in a polyamorous relationship.
• 🎧 An interview with a slave who embraced his slavery at 66 years to help you realise it is never too late!

Find a Master/slave

Let’s face it after you get over the initial excitement of finding a Master or slave, the search can feel shitty and frustrating with all the time wasters and no-shows. I have many articles to help you move from frustration to finding that Master or slave!

A vast section of articles is devoted to helping you find a Master/slave. In particular, I would suggest Protect Yourself From The Dangerous People In The BDSM Scene and Safeguarding Yourself against Fraud to make sure you stay safe. I know they are not the happiest subjects, but they will protect you in the long term. Specific articles and interviews you might find useful include:

• 📜 How To Decide To Become A 24/7 Slave
• 📜 Breaking Chains At 66: The Remarkable Story Of Slave Charles
• 📜 The Journey Of A Black Submissive To Find His True Self
• 📜 A series of articles around the practical aspects of finances and control in Master/slave relationships

In addition, the Master/slave course helps you figure out what you want, and the short one-hour 5 Secrets to Find a Master/slave video contains straightforward tactics that move your search to one that is much less frustrating, more efficient and easy. 

Also, check out the support group and the online community!

Finally, if you want some bespoke help, check out the coaching.

You’re in a Master/slave relationship

Well done for getting there. But the journey’s not over.

I have a section all about Master/slave relationships; I also recommend the advanced topics section that contains many articles such as Does a slave have needs?, Why A Successful Master/Slave Relationship Is Through Being Brave, and What Are The Dynamics That Can Cause Master/Slave Relationships To Go Wrong. I would also dip in and out of the podcast interviews so you can hear from other real-life Masters/slaves and their challenges, struggles and best practices that make their relationships work – some for decades.

I also suggest the support group and online community. I also offer coaching to help Masters and slaves in relationships, along with existing larger Master/slave families.

Your Master/slave relationship has ended

It can be devastating to lose your Master or slave. I’ve been there. The unique relationship and connection also lead to some unique difficulties in coming out of a Master/slave relationship.

This section of articles is here for you to help you manage the grief process and healing, along with practical steps in what to do. 

Also, check out the support group and online community.

If you’re here and need help, you are also welcome to contact me!

Become an inspiring Master

A section devoted to Masters, helping them to improve and become inspiring, amazing and great!

More journeys

• Self-reflection is the key to becoming a successful Master or slave and making your Master/slave relationship work. Check out this critical section of the website for more help.
• Open relationships – If you are interested in polyamory or want to open your relationship, here is a section to help you. 
• My own personal reflections