The Coaching Programme covers the entire journey from building your confidence so you can stop worrying about what other people think of you to finding the right Master/slave that suits your life. Along with how you can build confidence and thrive in the normal world!
And if you are already experienced, I work with you to help you go deeper and unleash yourself and find the relationship that is right for you.
Each signature coaching program is adapted to your bespoke needs and where you are – from finding a slave to deepening your current relationship
My coaching can use one or all of these steps depending on your needs.
1. Come out and build confidence
Discovering what you want in the Master/slave lifestyle can be challenging as there are so many different versions. So I work with you to find out the sort of Master/slave you think you want to be – for example, do you want a full-time 24/7 Master/slave or someone who is a partner and a Master/slave?
We also work on your fears or shame about becoming a Master/slave and transform this into confidence. For example, a fear of giving control up to someone. By working on your blockers and discovering what sort of Master/slave you want to be, you can move forward on your search to find a Master/slave without having to second-guess yourself.
2. Discover what you want and enjoy
We will work together to create easy methods for you to reflect on your experiences as a Master/slave to figure out what you really want. We do this because it is hard to know the difference between what we think we want to what we actually need in the early stages of our search. For example, do you really want to be in bondage all the time? You can find this out quickly through an easy technique such as bullet journaling and will not have to worry if you are going after the right thing. You’ll leave with an initial action plan on experiences you want to find the Master/slave for you.
3. Attract the right Master/slave for you
We will work together to write the best profile based on what you want and what you can offer to attract incredible Master/slaves that fill your needs the best. As there are so many fakes and time-wasters out there, this work will help you look credible and reduce the time spent on fantasists. Instead, you can focus on finding the real deal – a Master or slave!
We will teach you how to communicate with potential Master/slave partners- for example, how to speak submissively.
Doing this means you can feel attractive and happy while also feeling confident that you have clearly communicated expectations, boundaries and limits in a way both of you have understood. This way, there will be no unpleasant surprises when you start meeting Masters/slaves to find the one of your dreams.
4. Deepen the relationship
We will teach the best ways a Master and slave can communicate without leaving their roles or needing to fight. For example, how to communicate when there is a problem or frustration building between the Master and slave. This is because new Master/slave relationships can often have many problems and issues, and successful M/s relationships have solved these problems through well-protocoled communication. We will also cover how to make open relationships involving polyamory work.
We also work on how you can safely unleash your inner desires and get what you need consensually, without harm and also have some of the most intense scenes and sex you’ve ever experienced.
All of this allows you to feel more secure about the relationship and how to keep a Master/slave when you find one.
When searching for a Master/slave, there can be disappointments. For example, what happens when a relationship does not work out or someone you really like changes their mind about meeting up? We go through techniques and practices you can use to get through these moments quickly so you can focus on finding the Master/slave for you.
Or when you start to realise the difference between reality and fantasy, you can be disappointed. But often, there are amazing ways to make the fantasy work in reality – we will discover what these are for you in the coaching sessions!
6. Deepen Ownership
When you find a Master/slave with whom you deeply connect, there can still be a lot of fear of going deeper. We will cover how to communicate well with your Master and how you can both go deeper in power exchange safely and confidently and unleash yourself!
Fetish Bar/ Shop Tour
Based on your wants and needs, I take you for a tour around the Berlin Fetish Shops. Perhaps you want to buy something from the famous Gear Store, or perhaps you are in the mood for something bespoke from Leatherz or BUTCHEREI
Show you all the fetish bars from New Action to the famous “PZ”
Depending on which nights you are here, take you to the best bars for the night and your needs
What you get
Pre-talk to understand your needs
1-hour talk a week before you come
Email me at any time
Travel to Berlin
Get picked up at the airport / Train station in a chauffeured car
Stay in the superior room at Hotel Berlin Berlin
3 days of VIP 1:1 coaching bespoke to your needs
Customised Shop / Bar Tour
Drive back to the airport/train station
Post Online integration workshop
The rest of your life!
Email me at anytime
Access to the Master/slave community
But there’s more
Free Goodie Bag when you arrive
Free 50 euros Gear voucher to start your shopping
Lifetime free access to the Master/slave community
Free access to the Master/slave course
Free copy of my book: Light and Shadow: The Psychology of Master/slave relationships
“My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!”
I had had all sorts of kinks but experienced my first power dynamic relationship only recently and wanted to go further.
When reading Master/slave Lifestyle and seeing some of slave Phil’s videos on Instagram talking about blockers we can have, I found myself really relating to what he said.
Through the coaching, Phil has helped to have:
A better understanding of my role as Master / Dom
A better filter troughs profiles and opportunities
Accept that nobody is perfect
The wish list document he helped me create is like a door to my mind, and going past the coaching session, I’ll keep it alive, using it as a journal for future experiences, thoughts and highlights.
Phil adapted my coaching sessions to my specific situation, his experiences and input were always on point.
And through the sessions, he then helped me realise my dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!
Try it out, even if it’s just a coaching session. You’ll see results.
“I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!”
I was also curious to go down the rabbit hole of personal coaching with Phil and see what it might turn up. I knew that I was conflicted about my sexuality and my upbringing, and at the age of 50, I felt that now was a good time to leave the past behind and step into a future that was integral to my individuality
Now, I can more easily prioritise my life based on personal integrity and beliefs about myself that I have formed through coaching with Phil. My self-esteem has increased as it is based on my own self-values, not the values placed upon me by society, family or friends.
And because of this, I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!
You can trust Phil. He is someone with a wealth of life experience who isn’t an angel or a devil but a bit of both and just needs you to show up as you are.
Phil provides a strong circle of trust that allows you to open up to him, confident that Phil will honour all of you, no matter what feelings that might come up.
As a slave who has come out of a 24/7 relationship and being naturally submissive, I have found that the coaching sessions with Phil have enabled me to celebrate my own uniquenesses, feel positive about myself and share these feelings openly with new friends.
This encouragement has allowed me to get back to being more of an extrovert person with friends and acquaintances I want to be around. I personally have begun to share with friends a few understandings that Phil has encouraged me to bring to the forefront of my life.
As a submissive, I was worried about whether the coaching sessions would be fruitful for me.
To my surprise, they have been bountiful.
I encourage anybody interested in discovering more about themselves to move past a difficult life or traumatic event to approach Phil for guidance.
Thank you Phil for your guidance and astute knowledge.
“He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness”
Coaching with slave phil has vastly expanded my appreciation of not only the Master/slave dynamic but also myself. I have greater confidence and a better understanding of M/s dynamics. I use it to get fantastic reactions from my slave – from huge emotions to amazing scenes. I never believed the loving-kindness ritual Phil gave could have such a reaction with my slaves.
Coaching with slave phil has helped me increase my confidence and control of myself as a Dom and Master.
As well as providing knowledge on how I can Master slaves in the ways that suit me, the coaching with slave phil has expanded not only the breadth of my relationship with my slave but also the depth.
Phil helped me to safely access and unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness, along with a more profound and heart-based sense of responsibility for my slaves.
I would tell someone considering coaching that if they are serious about M/s relationships, the insight of slave phil has been of immense benefit.