I help queer and kinky people
be proud of what makes them different
so they can have amazing sex, build genuine friendships, find belonging, and confidently show the world who they truly are.
Do you feel blocked?
Many of us struggle or feel blocked when embracings our kinks and desires
Struggle
Do you struggle to know how to be open with your fetishes and live in a normal society?
Fearful
Changing to please others
Are you always worrying about how to please others
Worry you’re a slut
Do you worry about what others might think of you or whether you would be abandoned for being into this kink stuff and what other people would think of you?
Unleash Yourself
Be proud of yourself
You’re good enough as you are, and you deserve to be happy
Let go of the mask
Shed the mask, live unapologetically, and let your true self shine. Go out and be seen for the incredible person you truly are
Open to your desires and have amazing sex
You no longer have to hide your desires. Now you can ask and receive what you always wanted
Stop fitting in and belong
Find your space and feel the warm hug of belonging. You’re exactly where you need to be, and you can be completely, unequivocally yourself, and it feels exactly right.
Show the world who you truly are
Break free from the box of expectations — from friends, family, society. It’s time to stop the endless cycle of coming out and pursue your dreams with confidence and courage
About Me
I’ve spent 20 years exploring and experiencing 24/7 Master/slave relationships. My unique experiences as both Master and slave allow me to understand and help people on both sides of the power exchange spectrum.


I’m now a Master looking for a deep connection with the slaves I train, and I’m slowly looking to build my own leather family of 24/7 slaves.


For 20 years, I was a slave, leading to a global exploration of the Master/slave scene, serving Masters long-term and 24/7 from East Coast Australia to the West Coast of the USA and South Africa to Finland.


My journeys had incredible times but also dark times. But through these, I have learned what the reality of the Master/slave lifestyle is and how to live it.


As a coach and educator, I now help others avoid my mistakes, find what they really need, and have the courage to find the Master/slave for them. I also help those already experienced in the M/S lifestyle.
I have appeared in numerous publications and have participated in panels and workshops at numerous events worldwide, including the Master/slave Conference, Darklands, CLAW, The Village Berlin, and Recon.
Find out more
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Find the belonging and confidence you’ve always deserved
How can you go deeper?
With bespoke coaching customised to your needs, that moves you deeper, and wllows you to take those next steps in emracing what makes you unique. Both you kinks but all your others interests.
Where you can unleash yourself safely.
Coaching Programme
You Have a Right to Happiness
The Coaching Programme covers the entire journey from building your confidence how to build genuine friendships by being yourself, finding a sense of belonging, and confidently showing the world who you truly are.
It will also help you to embrace your desires, and to stop worrying about what other people think of you.
Along with all of that, you can build confidence and thrive in the normal world!
Each signature coaching program is adapted to your bespoke needs and where you are.
01
Come out and build confidence
Working from the inside out, we explore you to understand who you indeed are and what you want. In doing so, we discover the difference between fitting in and following your true desire.
Feel your confidence grow as you learn who you are and connect to your passions and joy.
02
Live boldly
Understanding who you are is just the beginning. It’s time to live it. Embrace your inner warrior and shed other’s expectations. It’s your time — live boldly, authentically, on your own terms, and without camouflage. Your story, your rules.
Discover your desires and ask for them without fear of rejection.
Then, pursue your dreams with courage, embracing the thrill of each leap. This is your moment — live boldly, guided by your heart’s true desires.
03
Heal and build unbreakable resilience
As gay/queer men along with people who have a deep need for kink, we’ve faced many challenges, from bullying to family acceptance. Regardless of our upbringing, feeling different was common for all of us, leading to insecurities.
In this phase, we’ll create a healing space and build resilience, helping you move past these insecurities to a more confident you.
Soon, you will leave the armour off, setting aside the masks at the door, not being on guard to check about the next person who comes in, and embracing being heinously yourself.
How have others found my coaching programme
I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships
Guy Baldwin
Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey
Kuffboy
My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!
Master M
I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!
footsolider
I can now celebrate my own uniqueness
slave ric
He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness
Sir Benjamen
Why choose me
Expert Coach
With over a decade of experience as an international executive coach, I’ve had the privilege of collaborating with some of the world’s most renowned organisations, including BBC, the largest broadcaster globally, and ITV, the leading commercial broadcaster in the UK.
My coaching journey has been all-encompassing, spanning every echelon of organisations – from visionary founders and C-level executives to directors and emerging leaders taking their first steps in their careers.
20 years of experience of being different
I have spent 20 years exploring my fetishes, first as a slave and now as a Master. And I have never fit in wherever I have gone. I know what it’s like to feel different and to try and find that confidence to be yourself.
Expert
am globally recognised for my expertise in the Master/slave Lifestyle, having conducted workshops at prestigious venues worldwide, such as CLAW in the USA and gay-BDSM.club, Recon London Full Fetish, The Stretch Festival, and The Village in Berlin.
I run workshops on helping queer people embrace their uniqueness and discover their confidence in that. I have also written a book about the fear of rejection around your kinks and another about the pressure of having to be the perfect gay. I’ve also written a book using archetypes to help people understand power exchange.
My insights and experiences have made me a sought-after voice in this field, leading to numerous interviews on various international podcasts.
Confidently show the world who you truly are
Be proud
8-session coaching programme
8 coaching sessions
In 4 months, I will transform your confidence (and sex life)
Shame free
Your will this work a shame-free zone where you can embrace who you really are
Bespoke to you
I will customise the programme based on your exact needs
Completely confidential
All my work is completely confidential
Be proud
Signature coaching programme
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I start coaching with you?
Set up a time to chat with me. We do this so I can understand your needs and explain the coaching process in more detail. This allows us to discover if we are a fit for each other and want to proceed.
If you wish to proceed after the conversation, I will send you the payment link.
When you pay, you get a link to set up the first session with me at a time that is convenient for you.
What payment methods do you accept?
I accept various payment methods, including credit/debit cards, Apple Pay, Google Pay and bank transfers.
I am not sure if I am a Master or slave – is this a good fit for me
Yes.
I have many clients who, through my coaching process, decide their fetish is not to be Master or slave but to embrace a fetish and kink differently. I will work with you to find what is best for you without judgment or preference for the Master/slave Lifestyle.
And this coaching programme, in particular, is built to help you with all aspects of your confidence.
Is this confidential
Completely—everything we do remains between you and me and is not shared with anyone else. I also practice best practice security to ensure access is limited to you.
What sexualities do you work with?
I work with any sex or sexuality.
I am uncertain if this is for me
Consider the Next Step Coaching Session to explore if we are a fit.
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