I help queer and kinky people
be proud of what makes them different
so they can have amazing sex, build genuine friendships, find belonging, and confidently show the world who they truly are.

Do you feel blocked?

Many of us struggle or feel blocked when embracings our kinks and desires

Struggle

Do you struggle to know how to be open with your fetishes and live in a normal society?

Fearful

Changing to please others

Are you always worrying about how to please others

Worry you’re a slut

Do you worry about what others might think of you or whether you would be abandoned for being into this kink stuff and what other people would think of you?

Unleash Yourself

Be proud of yourself

You’re good enough as you are, and you deserve to be happy

Let go of the mask

Shed the mask, live unapologetically, and let your true self shine. Go out and be seen for the incredible person you truly are

Open to your desires and have amazing sex

You no longer have to hide your desires. Now you can ask and receive what you always wanted

Stop fitting in and belong

Find your space and feel the warm hug of belonging. You’re exactly where you need to be, and you can be completely, unequivocally yourself, and it feels exactly right.

Show the world who you truly are

Break free from the box of expectations — from friends, family, society. It’s time to stop the endless cycle of coming out and pursue your dreams with confidence and courage

About Me

I’ve spent 20 years exploring and experiencing 24/7 Master/slave relationships. My unique experiences as both Master and slave allow me to understand and help people on both sides of the power exchange spectrum.



I’m now a Master looking for a deep connection with the slaves I train, and I’m slowly looking to build my own leather family of 24/7 slaves.



For 20 years, I was a slave, leading to a global exploration of the Master/slave scene, serving Masters long-term and 24/7 from East Coast Australia to the West Coast of the USA and South Africa to Finland.



My journeys had incredible times but also dark times. But through these, I have learned what the reality of the Master/slave lifestyle is and how to live it.



As a coach and educator, I now help others avoid my mistakes, find what they really need, and have the courage to find the Master/slave for them. I also help those already experienced in the M/S lifestyle.

I have appeared in numerous publications and have participated in panels and workshops at numerous events worldwide, including the Master/slave Conference, Darklands, CLAW, The Village Berlin, and Recon.

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MY PROJECTS
Master/slave & Kink Coaching
Gay Confidence Coaching
Career Coaching
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Find the belonging and confidence you’ve always deserved

How can you go deeper?



With bespoke coaching customised to your needs, that moves you deeper, and wllows you to take those next steps in emracing what makes you unique. Both you kinks but all your others interests.

Where you can unleash yourself safely.

Coaching Programme

You Have a Right to Happiness

The Coaching Programme covers the entire journey from building your confidence how to build genuine friendships by being yourself, finding a sense of belonging, and confidently showing the world who you truly are.

It will also help you to embrace your desires, and to stop worrying about what other people think of you.

Along with all of that, you can build confidence and thrive in the normal world!

Each signature coaching program is adapted to your bespoke needs and where you are.

01

Come out and build confidence

Working from the inside out, we explore you to understand who you indeed are and what you want. In doing so, we discover the difference between fitting in and following your true desire.

Feel your confidence grow as you learn who you are and connect to your passions and joy.

02

Live boldly

Understanding who you are is just the beginning. It’s time to live it. Embrace your inner warrior and shed other’s expectations. It’s your time — live boldly, authentically, on your own terms, and without camouflage. Your story, your rules.

Discover your desires and ask for them without fear of rejection.

Then, pursue your dreams with courage, embracing the thrill of each leap. This is your moment — live boldly, guided by your heart’s true desires.

03

Heal and build unbreakable resilience

As gay/queer men along with people who have a deep need for kink, we’ve faced many challenges, from bullying to family acceptance. Regardless of our upbringing, feeling different was common for all of us, leading to insecurities.

In this phase, we’ll create a healing space and build resilience, helping you move past these insecurities to a more confident you.

Soon, you will leave the armour off, setting aside the masks at the door, not being on guard to check about the next person who comes in, and embracing being heinously yourself.

How have others found my coaching programme

★★★★★

I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships

Guy Baldwin

★★★★★

Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey

Kuffboy

★★★★★

My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!

Master M

★★★★★

I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!

footsolider

★★★★★

I can now celebrate my own uniqueness

slave ric

★★★★★

He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness

Sir Benjamen

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Why choose me

Expert Coach

With over a decade of experience as an international executive coach, I’ve had the privilege of collaborating with some of the world’s most renowned organisations, including BBC, the largest broadcaster globally, and ITV, the leading commercial broadcaster in the UK.

My coaching journey has been all-encompassing, spanning every echelon of organisations – from visionary founders and C-level executives to directors and emerging leaders taking their first steps in their careers.

20 years of experience of being different

I have spent 20 years exploring my fetishes, first as a slave and now as a Master. And I have never fit in wherever I have gone. I know what it’s like to feel different and to try and find that confidence to be yourself.

Expert

am globally recognised for my expertise in the Master/slave Lifestyle, having conducted workshops at prestigious venues worldwide, such as CLAW in the USA and gay-BDSM.club, Recon London Full Fetish, The Stretch Festival, and The Village in Berlin.

I run workshops on helping queer people embrace their uniqueness and discover their confidence in that. I have also written a book about the fear of rejection around your kinks and another about the pressure of having to be the perfect gay. I’ve also written a book using archetypes to help people understand power exchange.

My insights and experiences have made me a sought-after voice in this field, leading to numerous interviews on various international podcasts.

Confidently show the world who you truly are

Be proud

8-session coaching programme

8 coaching sessions

In 4 months, I will transform your confidence (and sex life)

Shame free

Your will this work a shame-free zone where you can embrace who you really are

Bespoke to you

I will customise the programme based on your exact needs

Completely confidential

All my work is completely confidential

Be proud

Signature coaching programme

8 coaching sessions
4 months
Custom worksheets
Customed to you
Shame free
Completely confidential
Online video
Access to the MSL courses

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