3 Practical steps for a slave after breaking up

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Remove access

Throughout a Master/slave relationship, you might have given access to the Master for many things; these include:

  • Account information for recon
  • Access to Cloud systems such as iCloud
  • Location tracking – using a phone system such as Apple Find Me, or some other tracking software
  • Access to security cameras
  • Shared documents such as a journal
  • Finances
  • Passwords

You need to go through and remove access to these as and when you remember. This is to protect yourself in case the Master decides to abuse the access you have given. But it is also a way to distance yourself from the Master.

Get support

Get in touch with friends and support groups – Master/slave Lifestyle has a support group here – for them to help in this process.

Think about finding a kink-friendly/knowledge therapist or coach to help. (Also check on my podcast on mental health for advice)

Find joy   

A typical reaction with some slaves is to avoid the joy as they feel like they do not deserve it. You do deserve it, especially now. Pick up on other hobbies that give you joy.

If you are unsure what hobby you can do, think back to your childhood memories and pick up a hobby from then that you enjoyed.

Do you struggle to embrace your fetishes because you worry there’s something wrong with you? Or perhaps you worry about what people will think of you? You’re not alone in thinking this, and it is often due to shame. I have written a handbook based on multiple research to help you break free from shame—check it out there.

Do you want more help figuring out what you want or how to find a Master or slave effectively? I have some online masterclasses you should check out.

If you want more help with power exchange, why not check out my book on the secrets of power exchange? I break down power exchange into four sections, helping you protect yourself from others and how to become the best Master or slave you can be.

If you want more help with these subjects, I offer coaching to help you embrace your kinks and fetishes.

And for those in the Master/slave Lifestyle – even if you use different terms – I offer coaching to help you move forward, be it you want to find a Master/slave lifestyle or you are already in a relationship and are looking for support.

Coaching to those wanting to move and embrace their kinks.

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