Most simply, when you are unhappy, and your needs are unmet.
This can happen in many ways.
We change
We all change as people, and something we once loved can change into something we do not like. Often this is no one’s fault. We all change and transform as people, and a Master/slave relationship creates a lot of change and transformation for both Master and slave. And this can mean that, in the end, people change to the point the relationship is no longer appropriate.
In several podcast interviews, Masters has spoken about how M/s relationships can also change. So regardless of the control of the Master or slave, the relationship can change to a point it comes to an end.
We realise the M/s life is not for us
At a certain point, we can find that being a Master or slave is not for us. There is no shame in this.
It can also be more subtle. A slave cannot be the sort of slave for this Master, but with another Master with a different view of slavery, they would be themselves.
Life events
This includes the death and illnesses of family members. Because many Masters and slaves do not live in the same area, one person has moved. So when there are issues with the family, the Master or slave decides to move back.
These events can also impact us, so the Master or slave needs to step back from such an intense relationship.
The Master stops taking the slave’s needs into account
A Master can decide to stop taking any of the slave’s needs into account – including slavish ones such as control or structure. Instead, the Master opts for an easy life where they do not do anything and expect everything from the slave.
However, this can become very unsatisfying for the slave, and they will decide to leave at a certain point.
The slave stops caring about the Masters’s needs
It can also happen the other way around.
The M/s dynamic stops
It can be straightforward to stop the structure of an M/s relationship as a Master or slave feel tired. But if this goes on for too long, or the M/s structure is inconsistent, in that case, the relationship tends to mutate into a vanilla one.
This means that both Master and slave should work hard to keep a sustainable structure in place that allows the M/s aspects of the relationship to thrive.
Abusive
Any relationship can turn abusive and when this happens the victim should leave.
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