Take the next step

Do you want help to improve?

DO YOU

Struggle to be yourself with other people or feel shame for wanting to be a slave?

Struggle to take action and move forward?

You find nothing you do is ever good enough, leaving you feeling bad and with no joy in your life?

You tend to see the worst in yourself and the best in others, such as your Master, whereas you are already a fantastic person?

I can help you improve

Take the next step coaching session

Have a 1:1 coaching session with me and discover your next step as a Master or slave, in 50 minutes

  • Build confidence and pride rather than conforming and feeling shame
  • Take action to find your Master or go deeper into life rather than staying still
  • Explore and discover your dark side rather than hide
  • Find your Master

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I can now celebrate my own uniqueness


slave ric

As a slave who has come out of a 24/7 relationship and being naturally submissive, I have found that the coaching sessions with Phil have enabled me to celebrate my own uniquenesses, feel positive about myself and share these feelings openly with new friends.

This encouragement has allowed me to get back to being more of an extrovert person with friends and acquaintances I want to be around. I personally have begun to share with friends a few understandings that Phil has encouraged me to bring to the forefront of my life.

As a submissive, I was worried about whether the coaching sessions would be fruitful for me.

To my surprise, they have been bountiful.

I encourage anybody interested in discovering more about themselves to move past a difficult life or traumatic event to approach Phil for guidance.

Thank you Phil for your guidance and astute knowledge.

chastityskin

What does the package provide?

  • 50-minute coaching session to understand your results
  • A 15-page guide on how to find a Master and move from first contact to first visit

How does the session work?

1

Purchase

Purchase the Next Step Coaching Package

2

Book a time

Immediately make a booking to meet me

3

Tell me

  1. What is the biggest issue you need help with?
  2. Share your quiz results

4

The session

I help you find you find that one important action that will move you forward to make the fantasy a reality.

Testimonial

“I now know my future”

As a 24/7 slave, being able to talk and openly explore every aspect of my life, including BDSM, which is core to my identity and lived experience, was wonderfully liberating and sustaining. 

It’s given me confidence and permission to express that my needs are valid and need to be taken into consideration from those around me.

Your coaching allowed me to explore and identify my core needs and roles in my life – both slave and mainstream – and map out options and actions for the future.

Now I have a much better idea of who I am and how to express this to those around me!

slave b

Gain clarity and confidence and Take the next step


Or do you want to go further?

Do you feel?

Blocked

You look at the profile, but you feel blocked from taking the next step to meet someone

Fearful

You see a Master or slave online you would love to meet, but you play it safe as you’re too anxious to take the next step

Overwhelmed

You know this is something you want as you think about it all the time, but you have no idea how to take the next step safely

Fed-up of time wasters

Of having your time wasted with yet another person that did not know what they were talking about

Imagine instead

  • Waking up and seeing the boots of your Master. You kiss them and then look up to see those fantastic eyes looking down at you, proud of his property. Proud of you!
  • You wake up in the familiar comfort of your cage, your cock as hard as it gets in its chastity belt. Master will soon be present with your morning directions. 
  • The 9 to 5 day is finally over, and your Master walks back home through the door. You’ve cooked his favourite meal and you now await a very kinky evening, the rest of the world forgotten.

I’m slave phil

I can help guide you to the Master/slave you truly deserve.

My journey as a slave has led to a global exploration of the Master/slave scene, serving Masters long-term from East Coast Australia to the West Coast of the USA and South Africa to Finland.

My journey’s had incredible times but also dark times. But through these, I have learnt what the Master/slave lifestyle truly is and how to live it.

And now I help others and avoid the mistakes I made, to help them find what they truly need and their courage to find the Master/slave for them

How it works

The Signature Coaching Programme covers the entire journey of finding a Master/slave from coming out as a Master/slave to Deepening Ownership. Each signature coaching program is adapted to your bespoke needs and where you are – from finding a slave to deepening your current relationship

1. Come out and build confidence

Discovering what you want in the Master/slave lifestyle can be challenging as there are so many different versions. So I work with you to find out the sort of Master/slave you think you want to be – for example, do you want a full-time 24/7 Master/slave or someone who is a partner and a Master/slave.

We also work on your fears or shame about becoming a Master/slave and transform this into confidence. For example, A fear of giving control up to someone. By working on your blockers and discovering what sort of Master/slave you want to be, you can move forward on your search to find a Master/slave without having to second-guess yourself.

2. Discover what you want and enjoy

We will work together to create easy methods for you to reflect on your experiences as a Master/slave to figure out what you really want. We do this because it is hard to know the difference between what we think we want to what we actually need in the early stages of our search. For example, do you really want to be in bondage all the time? You can find this out quickly through an easy technique such as bullet journaling and will not have to worry if you are going after the right thing. You’ll leave with an initial action plan on experiences you want to find the Master/slave for you.

3. Attract the right Master/slaves for you

We will work together to write the best profile based on what you want and what you can offer to attract incredible Master/slaves that fill your needs the best. As there are so many fakes and time-wasters out there, this work will help you look credible and reduce the time spent on fantasists. Instead, you can focus on finding the real deal – a Master or slave!

We will teach you how to communicate with potential Master/slave partners- for example, how to speak submissively.

Doing this means you can feel attractive and happy while also feeling confident that you have clearly communicated expectations, boundaries and limits in a way both of you have understood. This way, there will be no unpleasant surprises when you start meeting Masters/slaves to find the one of your dreams.

4. Deepen the relationship

We will teach the best ways a Master and slave can communicate without leaving their roles or needing to fight. For example, how to communicate when there is a problem or frustration building between the Master and slave. This is because new Master/slave relationships can often have many problems and issues, and successful M/s relationships have solved these problems through well-protocoled communication. We will also cover how to make open relationships involving polyamory work.

This allows you to fill more secure about the relationship and how to keep a Master/slave when you find one.

5. CHALLENGES

When searching for a Master/slave, there can be disappointments. For example, what happens when a relationship does not work out, or someone you really like changes their mind about meeting up? We go through techniques and practices you can use to get through these moments quickly so you can focus on finding the Master/slave for you.

6. Deepen Ownership

When you find a Master/slave with whom you deeply connect, there can still be a lot of fear to go deeper. We will cover how to communicate well with your Master and how you can both go deeper in power exchange safely and confidently.

Testimonials

I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships


Guy Baldwin

Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey


Kuffboy

My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!


Master M

I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!


footsolider

I can now celebrate my own uniqueness


chastityskin /slave ric

He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness


Sir Benjamen


“I consider him a world-class authority regarding Master/slave and power dynamic relationships”.

– Guy Baldwin,  psychotherapist, author, activist, and educator

“Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey”


kuffboy

When I started my journey as a submissive, I dove deep – hitting the bars, surfing the net, you name it. But stumbling upon masterlsavelifestyle.com and slave phil’s insights was a game-changer. His straightforward approach and the depth of topics covered really struck a chord with me. Seeing him run a workshop at Virtual CLAW impressed me, and after a discovery call, I sealed the deal by taking him up on his coaching – his genuine, no-nonsense take on the M/s lifestyle was exactly what I needed.

The decision to sign up with Slave Phil wasn’t easy. But let me tell you, his coaching is the real deal. Slave Phil’s got this incredible ability to listen – I mean, really listen. He has this ability to hear the heart stuff that all too frequently is glossed over by our head: our fears, our shame, and our worries about what others might think. He can cut through the emotional clutter and point out matters that block transformation, bringing them to light and suggesting ways forward for personal growth.

His personal experience on both sides of the M/s dynamic adds an invaluable layer of authenticity and insight.

The most tangible result from his coaching? It’s his skill in uncovering the underlying layers of our conversations. His knowledge of psychological archetypes, combined with his extensive experience, provides a unique perspective. This has led me to shed negative aspects and embrace a healthier, more authentic M/s lifestyle, and to find a Master whom I can have a relationship with.

What surprised me the most? It’s his ability to make the sessions feel so natural, even when discussing the most intimate and challenging topics. His humble yet knowledgeable approach creates a space of trust and openness.

So, to anyone considering Slave Phil’s coaching, I’d say go for it. His blend of professional experience, psychological insight, and heartfelt guidance is rare and incredibly valuable. Whether you’re looking to deepen your role as a Master or a slave, Slave Phil is the guide you want on your journey.

My dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!


Master M

I had had all sorts of kinks but experienced my first power dynamic relationship only recently and wanted to go further.

When reading Master/slave Lifestyle and seeing some of slave Phil’s videos on Instagram talking about blockers we can have, I found myself really relating to what he said. 

Through the coaching, Phil has helped to have:

  • A better understanding of my role as Master / Dom
  • A better filter troughs profiles and opportunities
  • Accept that nobody is perfect

The wish list document he helped me create is like a door to my mind, and going past the coaching session, I’ll keep it alive, using it as a journal for future experiences, thoughts and highlights.

Phil adapted my coaching sessions to my specific situation, his experiences and input were always on point.

And through the sessions, he then helped me realise my dominant side was there all along. Now that I know this, there is no going back for me!

Try it out, even if it’s just a coaching session. You’ll see results.

Master M

I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!


footsoldier

I was also curious to go down the rabbit hole of personal coaching with Phil and see what it might turn up. I knew that I was conflicted about my sexuality and my upbringing, and at the age of 50, I felt that now was a good time to leave the past behind and step into a future that was integral to my individuality

Now, I can more easily prioritise my life based on personal integrity and beliefs about myself that I have formed through coaching with Phil. My self-esteem has increased as it is based on my own self-values, not the values placed upon me by society, family or friends.

And because of this, I am now going out on the fetish scene, making friends and arranging times to visit and serve Masters!

You can trust Phil. He is someone with a wealth of life experience who isn’t an angel or a devil but a bit of both and just needs you to show up as you are.

Phil provides a strong circle of trust that allows you to open up to him, confident that Phil will honour all of you, no matter what feelings that might come up.

footsolider

I can now celebrate my own uniqueness


slave ric

As a slave who has come out of a 24/7 relationship and being naturally submissive, I have found that the coaching sessions with Phil have enabled me to celebrate my own uniquenesses, feel positive about myself and share these feelings openly with new friends.

This encouragement has allowed me to get back to being more of an extrovert person with friends and acquaintances I want to be around. I personally have begun to share with friends a few understandings that Phil has encouraged me to bring to the forefront of my life.

As a submissive, I was worried about whether the coaching sessions would be fruitful for me.

To my surprise, they have been bountiful.

I encourage anybody interested in discovering more about themselves to move past a difficult life or traumatic event to approach Phil for guidance.

Thank you Phil for your guidance and astute knowledge.

chastityskin

He helped me unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness”


Coaching with slave phil has vastly expanded my appreciation of not only the Master/slave dynamic but also myself. I have greater confidence and a better understanding of M/s dynamics. I use it to get fantastic reactions from my slave – from huge emotions to amazing scenes. I never believed the loving-kindness ritual Phil gave could have such a reaction with my slaves.

Coaching with slave phil has helped me increase my confidence and control of myself as a Dom and Master.

As well as providing knowledge on how I can Master slaves in the ways that suit me, the coaching with slave phil has expanded not only the breadth of my relationship with my slave but also the depth.

Phil helped me to safely access and unleash my beast while keeping me grounded in kindness, along with a more profound and heart-based sense of responsibility for my slaves.

I would tell someone considering coaching that if they are serious about M/s relationships, the insight of slave phil has been of immense benefit.

Sir Benjamin

“I now know my future”

As a 24/7 slave, being able to talk and openly explore every aspect of my life, including BDSM, which is core to my identity and lived experience, was wonderfully liberating and sustaining. 

It’s given me confidence and permission to express that my needs are valid and need to be taken into consideration from those around me.

Your coaching allowed me to explore and identify my core needs and roles in my life – both slave and mainstream – and map out options and actions for the future.

Now I have a much better idea of who I am and how to express this to those around me!

slave b

Read all the testimonials here

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VIP Option available

  • A 3-hour VIP in-person to video-intensive to look at your beliefs and values.
  • You will also get exclusive use and coaching around my proprietary M/s model to identify your growth areas as a Master or slave.
  • 6 months of VIP monthly group calls after the coaching has finished.
  • VIP scheduling – so you can get the support when you need it
  • Lifetime VIP FREE access to the M/s community