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BDSM Coaching for Masters and slaves

I empower you to pursue the life you truly want – from 24/7 Master/slave – to all the other possibilities beyond the accepted norms of a mainstream life

Let’s face it – to try and live this life authentically is hard. From the fantasy to the reality of what lies beneath – we need courage and bravery to find and live our authentic selves. There are amazing ups, but there can be immense challenges. And there can be times we are uncertain and do not know what to do. BDSM Coaching can help in these times.

I offer my professional skills as a coach and my 20 years of experience living the BDSM Master/slave lifestyle to help people when they need it.

What will you get from coaching

See new possibilities and to find out what is truly possible

Find and see your strength by being your authentic self

Real-world advice 

Practical tools

Help you identify stumbling blocks and how to overcome them

Help you be strong by being yourself


Be strong by being yourself

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Tesimonials

We covered a lot of ground and your insights and suggestions hit home and are super helpful.

I hope you will allow me to add on a more personal note that I am very taken by you, your openness, empathy, energy, intuition and experience. I find your manner engaging and challenging in a good way and like the fact that I sense you are on a mission and yes, I’d say you are indeed a pioneer. 

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I have worked with Phil on personal matters which are at the interchange of professional aspirations and personal challenges.   I have found that Phil is thoughtful, engaging and someone who actively listens with empathy and focus.


I have found that he asks honest, thoughtful and open questions that are designed to engage you and focus your personal thinking and analysis.  Phil has a keen sense of being able through his questions and dialogue to cut through the ‘clouds’ that might be obstructing your view of your situation or your indecisions.


I found Phil to be a constructive coach with a keen sense of business smarts as well as an appreciation and sensitivity to the nature of the human condition and human interactions.  He understands that progress forward for most things is a delicate balance of aspiration, focused on goals and objectives coupled with the nuances of individual feelings and emotions.

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How I coach

  • With a high level of awareness 
  • Working with you with truthful sincere generosity
  • Always supportive, yet challenging when you need me to be
  • Sharing experience to empower others
  • From the heart
  • I approach each person and problem without judgement or shame, 
  • I deal with any problem, issue or goal you provide impartially and neutrally with no bias
  • I provide a safe and supportive environment for you to be open about any issues or thoughts you may have.

Embrace the beauty of who you really are

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WHAT CAN BDSM COACHING HELP ME WITH?

How to start your journey

  • Perhaps you are a Master looking for a full-time slave but having difficulties finding one. 
  • You are a slave, and you want a 24/7 Master, but something is stopping you from finding one

Making decisions and growth

  • You have found someone and want impartial advice on how to make such a significant decision
  • How do you develop your Mastery or slavery further
  • Confusion about your role and what you think you could be

Reflection and advice

  • Help with creating your own resume (Master or slave)
  • Struggling with issues around your Mastery or slavery
  • Advice on how do you move forward
  • Helping you if you feel blocked
  • Helping integrate both work and this lifestyle together (as so many see work as a condradiction to what they want to do as a relationship)

Interested in a COACHING SESSION

If you are interested, please get in touch in the form below. Please spend some time (15-30 minutes) filling in the form. I will be investing time in you, and spending the time to fill in this form shows me you are willing to invest some time in coaching.

If I receive a mostly blank form, I will assume you are not serious and will not set up a meeting.

30 minute free coaching

If you are not sure if you want to pay for a coaching session, I am happy to offer free 30-minute coaching. You can use this to see if you would like to go ahead with a full coaching session.

Price of a 60 minute coaching session

A 60 minutes coaching session is priced at $95 /95 euros / £95