Category: What to do when a Master/slave relationship ends
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Lighting the candle of the next relationship
I was reading recently about the Buddhist perspective of death. The Buddhist perspective is that consciousness passes from one body to another at death. Another way to think about this is to think about lighting a second candle from one first that is already burning. It means as we pass from one life to another,…
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Practical things to do when an M/s relationship comes to an end
Have a support network Ensure you have a good network of people supporting you through this breakup. Having friends you can openly talk to about your Master/slave relationship is essential. This means cultivating friendships with people who do not judge you for your lifestyle choices. Many might not understand the M/s relationship, but they can…
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When should you leave a Master/slave relationship?
Most simply, when you are unhappy, and your needs are unmet. This can happen in many ways. We change We all change as people, and something we once loved can change into something we do not like. Often this is no one’s fault. We all change and transform as people, and a Master/slave relationship…
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3 Practical steps for a slave after breaking up
Remove access Throughout a Master/slave relationship, you might have given access to the Master for many things; these include: You need to go through and remove access to these as and when you remember. This is to protect yourself in case the Master decides to abuse the access you have given. But it is also…
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The emotional stages of a Master/slave breakup
When a Master/slave relationship ends, be it a breakup or death – we can go through a cycle of emotions. This process is well known as the six stages of grief. The stages are: Although this is often shown as a linear sequence where we go from one step to another, this is not true.…
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The end of a special relationship
We can sometimes focus so much on starting a Master/slave relationship that we want to avoid the fact that the Master/slave relationship – like all relationships can end. When I first started out in the Master/slave scene, I aimed to find a Master for the rest of my life. But as I have grown older…
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In mourning: A proposal for what to do when a Master/slave relationship comes to an end
When a Master/slave relationship comes to an end what does one do? A Master / slave relationship is one of deep intensity and connection, and when that ends there are significant feelings and consequences. In this article I would like to explore what that can feel like, but then a suggestion about what we as…