Category: How to find a 24/7 Master/slave

I have questions about using the terms Master and slave

One of the most common questions I receive when people email me concerns the titles of Master and slave. Some people, including myself, identify strongly with the terms Master and slave and want to use them in their power exchange play or relationship. But others do not. I am often emailed by people asking if…
Safeguarding Yourself Against Fraud in the Kink and Master/Slave Scene

A Comprehensive Guide to Fraud in the Master/slave and Kink Scene When we discuss finding a Master or slave, we often think of the connection and the vulnerability that can come with this, or perhaps amazing sex. When we find that someone, we come alive as a deep, profound part of ourselves is seen and…
6 steps to make a good fetish profile that attracts the right Master/slaves

When moving into the Master/slave lifestyle, or the fetish/kink lifestyle in general, there is one thing we all need to do. Create a good fetish profile. Like them or hate them, they are a fact of life. And we want to create the perfect fetish profile that attracts the right Master/slave for us. There are…
I cannot be a Master/slave; I look too..

I first engaged with the BDSM scene and found Masters using Recon and other now-defunct websites. Then several years later, I started to attend some BDSM bars, including the S.M. Gays event in London (perfect for beginners). Before I finally started to attend some of the larger events, such as European Folsom and Berlin Leather Easter. One…
Two of the greatest myths that hold people back from being a Master/slave

There can be a lot of myths about what it is like to be a 24/7 Master/slave, which can hold many people back. Here are some of the most prominent. A Master cannot be vulnerable A myth is that the Master is a god-like being who is always perfect. He has no issues and needs…
How do I open my existing relationship to a Master/slave?

It is vital to plan the conversation. When your spouse hears you want to open the relationship up, they can naturally think you do not want them anymore. It is essential to understand their feelings and assure them. Explain why and what this means to the relationship – i.e. you still want them. You might…
Kink vs Sex: A tip to make you a more credible Master/slave when talking with others

One of the key differences when joining the Master/slave or general fetish/kink community is understanding the difference between sex and kink. This might seem obvious for some, but others might not even know the difference. Fucking For some, sex and kink might mean being fucked or fucking and doing this for hours. This is a…
Find out about an authentic Kinky Family and what you need to know to have your own

In this episode, we have Dominant Dan back on the show talking about his kinky, polyamorous family. Find out what makes it a family, how it works, Dan’s role as the dominant in caring for and looking after the family, and how blood is thicker than water when it comes to family. More about Dan…
How Shame Blocks Our Master/slave Fetishes And How Love Helps

Shame – a painful feeling of humiliation and distress caused by the knowledge of wrong behaviour. Shame – an action used to make someone feel shame so they will do something different. Shame – a feeling that is all too common when we want to embrace our fetish. Many people can feel shame when first…
The BDSM Slave’s Intense Need To Fixate That Overcomes Everything

Slaves serve a BDSM Master with a lot of energy and focus – a part of a psychological slave mindset common in most slaves. This ability is one reason why we are so suited and good at serving someone else. But what happens when a slave does not have a Master to serve? We need…